Do now we have to observe our bosses on social media? I do (on two platforms, out of obligation I assume) and really feel obligated to “like” all their posts. It’s exhausting.
— Nameless, Toronto
You’re beneath no obligation to observe your boss on social media. Your boss shouldn’t be your buddy. Now, a few of us do observe skilled colleagues on social media for a spread of causes. Should you work in social media, for instance, it is likely to be crucial or helpful to observe folks you’re employed with. Different instances, you is likely to be interested by a co-worker’s private life otherwise you may truly be pleasant and even associates.
When following a boss, although, there’s a vital energy imbalance and an added layer of stress to interact with content material. As you word, that form of factor is exhausting. It’s extra work and few persons are on the lookout for extra work. You even have to fret about your boss following you on social media, and maybe figuring out extra about your private life than is good. Boundaries begin to blur and that may get messy, relying on the way you deal with social media. Do your self the kindness of unfollowing your boss and don’t give it one other thought.
Desirous to Be a Higher Mentor
Each few years, I decide to be a part of knowledgeable mentorship program. The packages fluctuate, however the basic construction tends to be matching folks with the expectation of assembly recurrently over the course of a number of months. Mentorship could be great, and as an idea, is highly effective and essential.
I really feel horrible saying this, however I’ve by no means felt like I give a lot to or get a lot worth out of those structured packages — as both a mentee or as a mentor. However I’ve discovered casual mentoring extraordinarily useful and rewarding. Assist! What makes for good mentoring relationships?
A proper mentorship expertise is barely as profitable because the folks concerned and the design of this system. Good mentoring relationships are lively, mutual and all the time shifting ahead. I’ve discovered that mentoring experiences which are structured work greatest. In these experiences, there are clearly outlined targets and outcomes. There are techniques in place to create accountability, and there’s flexibility to permit the mentoring relationship to evolve primarily based on the mentee’s wants and the mentor’s experience. It’s useful when there’s a clearly delineated time-frame and the chance for casual mentoring to proceed after this system is completed.
It’s additionally actually essential for each events to wish to be concerned. All too typically, professionals are thrust into mentoring experiences with out being given the chance to supply any enter, with out even being requested in the event that they wish to be mentored. If somebody shouldn’t be fascinated by mentoring, for no matter cause, even essentially the most fantastically designed program will fail.
It is likely to be time so that you can take a break from formal mentoring. Or maybe you’ll be able to supply some suggestions about what’s and isn’t working within the present program. The true query right here is why aren’t you giving or getting a lot worth from these packages? And what, if something, could be completed to handle your issues? I want you one of the best find extra fulfilling formal mentoring experiences. That you simply care sufficient to ask this query lets me know you’ll determine this out.